符域笔记：你不需要更多的How to 建议 You Don’t Need More How-To Advice — You Need a Beautiful and Painful Reckoning

为什么听了很多道理，也达不到目标

People suck at following advice. Even the most effective people in the world are often terrible. There are at least two reasons:
1. Most people have an insufficient reason for action. The pain isn’t painful enough. It’s a nice-to-have, not a must-have. There has been no “Harajuku Moment.”
2. There are no reminders. No consistent tracking = no awareness = no behavioral change. Consistent tracking, even if you have no knowledge of fat-loss or exercise, will often beat advice from world-class trainers.

1.大多数人没有足够的行动理由。疼痛还不够痛苦。这是一个不错的选择，而不是必须拥有的。没有“原宿时刻”。

2.没有提醒。没有一致的跟踪 = 没有意识 = 没有行为改变。即使你对减脂或运动一无所知，持续的跟踪也往往会胜过世界级教练的建议。

什么是原宿时刻（Harajuku Moment）

I was in Tokyo with a group of friends. We all went down to Harajuku to see if we could see some artistically dressed youngsters and also to shop for fabulous clothing, which the area is famous for. A couple of the people with us were pretty fashionable dressers and had some specific things in mind they wanted to buy. After walking into shops several times and leaving without seriously considering buying anything, one of my friends and I gave up and just waited outside while the others continued shopping. We both lamented how unfashionable we were. I then found myself saying the following to him: “For me, it doesn’t even matter what I wear; I’m not going to look good anyway.”I think he agreed with me. I can’t remember, but that’s not the point. The point was that, as I said those words, they hung in the air like when you say something super-embarrassing in a loud room but happen to catch the one randomly occurring slice of silence that happens all night long. Everyone looks at you like you’re an idiot. But this time, it was me looking at myself critically. I heard myself say those words and I recognized them not for their content, but for their tone of helplessness. I am, in most of my endeavors, a solidly successful person. I decide I want things to be a certain way, and I make it happen. I’ve done it with my career, my learning of music, understanding of foreign languages, and basically everything I’ve tried to do.

我和一群朋友在东京。我们都去了原宿，看看我们是否能看到一些穿着艺术服装的年轻人，并购买该地区闻名的精美服装。和我们在一起的几个人都是非常时尚的梳妆台，并且有一些他们想买的特定东西。在几次走进商店后，我没有认真考虑买任何东西就离开了，我和我的一个朋友放弃了，只是在外面等着，而其他人则继续购物。我们俩都感叹自己是多么不合时宜。然后我发现自己对他说了以下几句话：“对我来说，我穿什么都无关紧要;反正我不会好看的。我想他同意我的看法。我不记得了，但这不是重点。关键是，当我说这些话时，它们悬在空中，就像你在嘈杂的房间里说一些超级尴尬的话，但碰巧捕捉到了整夜发生的随机发生的一片寂静。每个人都看着你，就像你是个白痴一样。但这一次，是我批判性地审视自己。我听到自己说了这些话，我认出它们不是因为它们的内容，而是因为它们无助的语气。在我的大多数努力中，我是一个非常成功的人。我决定让事情以某种方式发生，我让它发生。我的职业生涯、对音乐的学习、对外语的理解，以及基本上我尝试做的所有事情都做到了这一点。

任何事上变得卓越的关键

For a long time, I’ve known that the key to getting started down the path of being remarkable in anything is to simply act with the intention of being remarkable.If I want a better-than-average career, I can’t simply “go with the flow” and get it. Most people do just that: they wish for an outcome but make no intention-driven actions toward that outcome. If they would just do something, most people would find that they get some version of the outcome they’re looking for. That’s been my secret. Stop wishing and start doing.

很长一段时间以来，我都知道，要想在任何事情上都变得卓越，关键是简单地以非凡的意图行事。如果我想要一个比平均水平更好的职业，我不能简单地“随波逐流”并得到它。大多数人就是这样做的：他们希望得到一个结果，但没有为这个结果做出任何有意图的行动。如果他们只是做某事，大多数人会发现他们得到了他们正在寻找的结果的某种版本。这是我的秘密。停止许愿，开始做。

实践

What’s a small step you could take today? Right now? You’ll almost never have complete information, and you don’t generally need it. It’s often an excuse for avoiding something uncomfortable. Who could you call or email today to get the bare minimum needed for your next step? What is the cost of your inaction? This is important. What is your status quo costing you, and how can you make the pain painful enough to drive you forward? What’s a single decision you could make that, like Chad’s one-week meal plan, removes a thousand decisions? You don’t need more how-to information. You need 1) a painful and beautiful reckoning (e.g., what does life look like if you leave this as-is for 3-5 years?), and 2) simple actions that compound over time. So what’s next?

你今天可以迈出哪一小步？马上？

你几乎永远不会拥有完整的信息，而且你通常不需要它。这通常是避免不舒服的事情的借口。您今天可以给谁打电话或发电子邮件来获得下一步所需的最低限度？

你不作为的代价是什么？这很重要。你的现状让你付出了什么代价，你怎么能让痛苦变得足够痛苦，推动你前进？做这个练习。

您不需要更多的操作方法信息。

你需要 1）一个痛苦而美丽的清算（例如，如果你保持原样 3-5 年，生活会是什么样子？），以及 2）随着时间的推移而复合的简单行动。

那么下一步是什么？